When you aren't a fraidy cat anymore then we will have more to talk about. I don't know what it will take for you to stand up for yourself. You are like the guy that wants to be handcuffed to the bed and beaten silly. Its fun for the woman a few times but after that it becomes kinda boring to be in charge. How many times can you wear nothing but a pair of tall black boots before it gets boring? See what I mean?
You don't see any "move" as being a good one because you are afraid. You are afraid of your own W. Does that seem sane to you? How on Earth can you justifty THAT to your kids? Let your W justify her affairs to them and that is why you are getting divorced.
You are doing nothing productive so nothing productive is happening.
