What predicated the A? More than likely the house represents the problems you two were having prior to the A. There are several WAW on here that have had affairs and can give you a better understanding of what your W is going through. Dia posted a story about a glass room several months ago that is very en lighting. I'll look and see if I can find it for you.
You may never know what the underlying reasons are for the reaction to the house. But clean or not clean it is a symbol of the old life she was trying to escape. (just a hunch)
_________________________ Me-41 W-39 M-15 yrs T-17 yrs D-12 S-9 S-8 B 5/08 S 1/09