Funny that the roadside assistance thing has come up for you today, I am posting something to you from my sitch from just last night/today.
I just paid the bills last night, and in it was our roadside assistance renewal, and I struggled with if I should renew STBXW's or not. Here is how I handled it.
I renewed hers for this year, then this AM when I dropped off d8, I handed her the renewed card, and said.
"STBXW, I have decided to renew your roadside assistance for this year, and here is your card. Next year, you will have to take charge of this."
Her reply was at best a meek "Ok." and then she took the card.
Now, in my albeit somewhat warped mind, I took the lead there, made the decision, she knows it, and she knows that it will now end after this year, but her response was not what I cared about.
I cared that my d8 would not be stranded on the road with STBXW at some point this year for a car problem. If she's out with some other dude, and that happens, that is a chance I'll take to ensure my d8 is OK while I am not around this year, and I can live with that.
M: 41 STBXW: 41 D: 9 Bomb: 4/26/09
On board the D train now..
"Suffering is when we try to change what we cannot."