C, May I suggest something to you? Keep to one thread. When you have several going, we cannot keep up with you and you cannot keep a "journal" of your progress.
No, you are not the ow...you are still his wife and he's cake eating a bit. He wants to keep you dangling and on the side just in case things don't work out w/the ow. Also, he knows that if he needs a place to crash, you just might allow him to stay in his home until it is sold.
Take each day as it comes and do not worry about what curve balls he's going to throw your way. Why? Because he doesn't know himself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
