I know!!! It wasn't that, he was a really nice guy, but there was really no spark. I don't know if that is a requirement, but I would think it is.
Part of me does feel guilty. I did not feel like I was cheating per se, and I don't think the feeling had much to do with the Stupid German. I think it was my own guilt because I know right now I still cannot be in a relationship. I am not ready. And this guy was definitely looking for a little more of an emotional attachment.
I kept thinking that I will not do the same thing to this guy that the Stupid German did to me...not the affair but leaving a lot of unanswered questions.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
The great thing about those stop signs is that you recognized them! That is great. Heed them every time they pop up and you'll be just fine.
I agree, date men you normally wouldn't because you never know what kind of diamond you could find. Of course, that lump of coal just might remain that way, but you'll never know unless you try, right?
I knew there was a reason I stopped reading any kind of self-help book! I read Boundaries in Dating and although it is a good book and I love the authors, all it did was make me realize that there is no way in heck that I have any business trying to put myself back out in the 'pool'. It was a serious downer for me.
What are your plans for New Year's? Assuming you don't have to dig out to get there!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
LOL!!! I think I need to quit reading the self help books and just follow my gut instincts. And quit listening to my friends who keep saying "sure you're ready to date...you just have to get out there..."
Right now, I have NO plans for New Years! I think I will stay home and watch Dick Clark (or whoever is doing Rockin' New Years Eve...). D13 is going to her (eeeeek) b/f's house for the evening (with extreme parental supervision...).
What about you?
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Amen to that! I think that was part of it too, the idea of having to "answer" to someone.
So don't want that right now. Maybe never...although I doubt that. I loved being married to the Stupid German until he went off the deep end.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
If you were getting red flags in your head, you were right to stop it. That doesnt necessarily mean you are not ready to date or trapped in the past, maybe it only means, this nice guy, didnt do it for you, you know?
We are all so good at analysing, sometimes we miss the forrest for the tree.
I really worked myself into a frenzy on how to break it off with this guy, and silly me...Once I actually did it he completely understood. It wasn't like it was serious, but I agree, I analyze everything.
I figure it this way. If God wants me with some, He can bring him to me. I am just going to enjoy being single right now, and not worrying about who comes next.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
A quiet evening in sounds good to me. It would scare me to death to have my 13 year old at her boyfriend's house, but thankfully I don't have to think about that. Glad I don't have a daughter!!!!
I've been invited to a party at a friend's house, but I really don't like great big parties for new year's eve. The tension at midnight is a bit extreme for me. Not to mention, this will all be single people from various churches in the area and NO ALCOHOL! So not good for me. I don't want to sound like a lush but I do love my NYE drinks. It's the only night I tend to indulge a little too much.
We'll see!
Cozy warm in your jammies sounds like THE way to go to me! Enjoy it.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Oh believe me I am not looking forward to it, although his mom and I seem to be on the same page when it comes to the two of them. They are both on the "young" side of 13, so I don't worry so much. Besides, I am a firm believer in frequent embarrassing sex talks, and so she is well aware of the consequences. And does not seem to have any interest in finding out. (Thank God...).
I am looking forward to just curling up w/ a book and having a beer...
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
