As heroic a gesture you think it was, you have only shown the courts and your children that spending as much of your life as possible with them wasn't the most important thing to you. I'd move back home just to spend more time with your childen. Ignoring your wife is easy; 10 years down the road hearing stories from their childhood and thinking 'I didnt know about that' is not. If they even give you that amount of time then.
And affairs arent textbook. They take on all shapes and sizes. Whats going on with Curly, Larry and Moe's wives over in Newcomers isnt how the guy next door is carrying on with his secretary. Sometimes a piece on the side that you only see every once in a while is the best. No need to get complicated, divulge to much, meet the kids; No need wake up next to eachother, share secrets, less chance of getting caught; Just good times, easy sex and whateva
sorry, if i come off as crass. sometimes i think it is best that people see the other side of the story.