Wife wants best of both worlds

[MHL]

My mom had the opportunity to dispell the thoughts my wife was having about my mother and thinking that my mother hated my W. Just the opposite was true and my mother told her that when she saw my wife a couple of weeks ago. I don't know how your parents actually feel about your wife but if they could communicate to her that they have the kids best interest at heart and that she will always be their mother and no matter what happens they will always have a R with and they want it to be good, it will help your overall situation. It did with mine. Your parents are probably reacting to you and how unhappy you are that your W had an A and is doing all this. This is tough what I am about to say and again I am having to do the exact same thing right now, so I am saying it to myself also. Stop talking about it, except here. You have to Act-as-if with everyone otherwise it does not work. You have to act like her being with the OM is no big deal even though it is killing you. It is hard and it is a head game I play with myself but I find acceptance is a big part of it. I have my DB coaching session right now and will come back in an hour.