PDT, the boundry I laid down was end the A with no contact or I will expose it. I have no intel to credibly execute the stick. (even though I have looked.) So I can't gain her respect by doing it anyway. Right?
Refresh my memory: what evidence do you have since the beginning?
What methods of intel gathering have you attempted in the last 30 days?
Here's your problem, Wonderful: you can't lay out a boundary, and not be willing to enforce it. And if your boundary is contingent upon having proof, and you're doing nothing to gather it, than it is a toothless boundary at best, and a mockery at worst.