I know this sounds bizarre, but after the beginning of the new year and he has no where to go, I think it may be to my benefit that he be forced to stay with the OW. The situation is a little weird since she rents a room from the mother of a mutual friend of H and I. I think this may have something to do with why he can't "live" with her. Also, he is still paying half of all the bills in the marital residence as well and he cannot afford to go out and rent something.

I feel that if he goes to live with her, he may be jarred a little bit by the reality of the situation. She is very insecure, mildly suicidal and has an eating disorder (knew her before she started having an affair with my husband). I feel that the appeal of OW for him is that he was also displaying signs of major depression and she was at the same point. It's a really bad relationship for him to be in.

I do feel like he is starting to "date" me again. A few weeks ago he would have never went out to dinner with me or spent anytime with me and now he is doing a little bit of an about face and getting warmer to me as each day passes. He even a week ago brought me some things when I wasn't feeling well. He was with me when he would normally have been with her this past weekend (except for at night). I remember my husband when he was courting me and he wouldn't spend a minute away from me EVER and this is not the case with her. Perhaps her accomodations are better than the cold, empty room he is in at his buddy's on an air mattress. Also, and I know this may ruffle a few feathers, but we had an amazing sex life prior to this and we have still ML a few times since he left (with protection of course). I felt the first few times that he was using me, but now I think he is starting to feel used and even tried to be more loving with me the last time as opposed to just doing a deed. Bad move on my part??

We have our house on the market since he left and got an offer from the neighbor yesterday and when I texted him, he called. When I mentioned it to him, he started to get a little hostile with me. Perhaps cold feet. This was our dream home so maybe he's starting to realize that it will be gone and once the house is sold, our only common thread and reason to see me is gone as well???