The kids are aware of the status between mom and dad but I do noth think they really understand what that means (not yet anyway). I do not think they know she is dating another man. She is being cautious (I think) becuase she knows that will impact them...I give her some credit for this.
I do not know to much about the OM. I know they use to work together (she was his boss), he is 11 years younger and has been divorced (no kids...I think). A couple of weeks ago I made the mistake of talking about him with her...I was really upset. She told me he is attentive and sweet to her and is exactly what she needs after the roller coaster ride we were on.
One other thing that has really been bothering me is that my parents and her are not on speaking terms. My parents do not want to speak with her becuase of what she has done. She gets very upset/mad when they are around, especially when I have to shuttle the kids around to keep them away from one another. She thinks I am bad mouthing her to make her look bad while at the same time manipulating the situation to make myself look like the innocent vicitim. I have told her this is not the case and that I have taken responsibility for all of my bad actions during the M as well (she does not beleive this). I told her if this was a "normal" divorce" things would be different but my parents cannot overlook the A and OM...she does not seem to get this. Anyway, this situation has cuased more negative feelings over the past couple of weeks which has not helped things.
