This might be true for a "regular" guy, but my H does not have the jealousy or insecurity wiring. I doubt that his interest is in what I am doing.
Yeah Right. And you have convinced yourself of this why?
Critical rationalism
Critical rationalists hold that scientific theories, and any other claims to knowledge, can and should be rationally criticized, and (if they have empirical content) can and should be subjected to tests which may falsify them. Thus claims to knowledge may be contrastively, normatively evaluated.
I am convinced of it because he has said it since day one. He has had opportunity to be jealous, but I have never seen him outwardly express jealousy.
That sounds bad, what I meant was he has been with me when I have been asked out by others, and he never seemed bothered. I wasn't going around doing things to make him jealous.
That sounds bad, what I meant was he has been with me when I have been asked out by others, and he never seemed bothered. I wasn't going around doing things to make him jealous.
He wasn't jealous because he trusted you to not go out with them. Now he may not be able to trust that.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
That sounds bad, what I meant was he has been with me when I have been asked out by others, and he never seemed bothered. I wasn't going around doing things to make him jealous.
He wasn't jealous because he trusted you to not go out with them. Now he may not be able to trust that.
Kevin
Wow. I totally never thought of that. I guess I'll never know unless I test him.
He wants to come see the kids again tonight. Any tips on what I should do?
He wants to come see the kids again tonight. Any tips on what I should do?
As far as whether or not to let him see them or whether or not to try and make him jealous?
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Let him see the kids, do you know how long he's going to be seeing them? Maybe a couple of hours? Use that to your advantage ;-)
When he comes over, make sure you are dressed appearing to go out, put on some hot clothing, do the hair & make up thing, put on some perfume, use the "fancy" purse, not the bag you usually carry with you, put on some nice shoes and appear to be going out.
Tell him you'll be back in an hour but come back in 3 hours.
He will call, text, when you don't make it back on time, take your time replying back, you can reply with "got held up at a friends, I should be home soon".
And that's it.
VOILA!
Mystery, suspense, drama and on top of that you had a baby sitter for the evening and you didn't even know it. Go to the movies or something, by yourself or with a friend, just do it.
When you arrive in the door of your home, pick up your phone as if you're talking to someone and tell them "sorry I had to cut our evening short, kids & babysitters, I tell ya LOL! Yes I will find a more RELIABLE babysitter next time, I'm home now can I call you in a bit? Sounds good... bye"
Your H will ask you who you were talking to, and you will reply, "just a friend", and he may ask man or woman, you will reply, "does it matter, its just a friend, stop asking so many questions, you're here to see the kids not asking me 20 questions" - give him attitude when you say this.
so much better than my reference to Critical rationalism. LOL.
Steve I'm trying to keep up with you & Gucci, it's hard though, sometimes a person just runs out of stuff to say LOL! (and obviously I'm super productive when I'm doing this at work.... shhhh.... don't tell anyone)
Okay, robx. I'll do it and see what happens. Something is definitely happening. He asked me to stop avoiding talking to him. I told him I wasn't avoiding, I just didn't have anything to say unless it was about the children.
He even offered to fix my computer, which I desperately need, but will decline. Mostly because I don't want him to find evidence of you guys.
Well, that and the two peen pics from my friends ex-H who recently learned I was separated. lol Yeah, that's a guy I'll date. lol Yuck.
Here is what will happen tonight... He will tell me to swear on the lives of our children that I don't have a man. He knows if I swear something, it's 100% true. I could say I'm not swearing anything, and he'd know for sure I am lying.
He even offered to fix my computer, which I desperately need, but will decline. Mostly because I don't want him to find evidence of you guys.
You know how to clear history, cache, cookies, favorites and the recent documents? get in the habit. he probably will be going through your underwear drawer too....
Originally Posted By: Sad Girl
Here is what will happen tonight... He will tell me to swear on the lives of our children that I don't have a man. He knows if I swear something, it's 100% true. I could say I'm not swearing anything, and he'd know for sure I am lying.
you could just say, I am not playing that game anymore.
