Need Some Qwik Advice

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I had asked her to go out a couple of times this weeek. No answer was given, so after my second work out here at the house, I got ready and walked out the door. She ran after me and I told her U don't wanna go but I do.

Well done. You asked her out b/c you also wanted to do something. She didn't - you still did - you went out. Nicely done.

I said " W here it is plain and simple - You F*d around on me, put the marriage on hold than in the throws of divorce, I forgive you for that. I need to start the repairing process. I am not going thru everyday struggling with my marital status. I cannot and will not live here and basically co parent our children for the rest of my life. I want to live and love and laugh again. I want it to be you but if you won't recognize the fact that we have to work everyday on things than it won't work.This just isn't about you, I am reaching out to you AGAIN to tell you to start getting it right or get out"

Boundary. Good.

She said - " What am I doing? I'm not mean, I'm not rude, if this is about sex you know I am struggling with that right now"

I Said " It's not just S, it's intimacy, it's affection, it's friendship, it's mommy & daddy time, it's the little things couples do that make the little problems go away or never show up. Let me ask You - are you still talking to OM?"

She said " I have"

I said " Get out - I am tired of it, I was tired of it - good luck to you."

She said " I'm not leaving - I'm not doing anything wrong, I told you i cared and that I was struggling with that also, why can't you understand that I am F*d up right now and I am trying"

OB to W: "I can understand that you are f*d up. I'm sorry you are having difficulties in your life. I do not see you trying - I only hear you saying you will. I told you what contact with OM would result in. You have two weeks to find a place and move."

Nothing more to say. She is making her choice. You are enforcing your boundary out of respect for YOURSELF.

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