Sounds like your doing ok, and I wish you the best in the new year.
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I have some work to do before I push the D button. I have to look at what teh D will look like for me - the numbers, not the emotions.
But, I cannot stay in this limbo existence. I just can't.
I see so many people lately starting to prep for this, and move over to StBD. I think I read 4 or 5 posts from people just this AM on this!
Hopefully the below comments will get to others as well, when it comes to D, so keep these in mind.
I heard these below, and it seems appropriate to what I have found so far as I meander through the D process..
"When it comes to D, the object of the court is to make sure NEITHER party is happy, especially financially. If one party is happy at the end, then the result was not fair."
"It takes 128% of the pre D income to maintain the same lifestyle for both parties after the D."
These are the realities of D financially, as I believe your aware. The reason's for D go beyond the finances, but when the numbers start to hit you, it is difficult to separate the emotion from the numbers, and keep them separate.
Keeping you all that are going through this in my thoughts and prayers..
M: 41 STBXW: 41 D: 9 Bomb: 4/26/09
On board the D train now..
"Suffering is when we try to change what we cannot."
