Need Some Qwik Advice

[OnceBurdened]

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I had asked her to go out a couple of times this weeek. No answer was given, so after my second work out here at the house, I got ready and walked out the door. She ran after me and I told her U don't wanna go but I do. Of course she wanted to know who was going and who I was going to meet.

She did call a couple of times while I was gone, than she wanted to know when I got home - i guess she didn't see or hear me come in but it was 6:30p - not late by any stretch.I thought it was perfect timing to begin the "work on it" discussion.

I said " W here it is plain and simple - You F*d around on me, put the marriage on hold than in the throws of divorce, I forgive you for that. I need to start the repairing process. I am not going thru everyday struggling with my marital status. I cannot and will not live here and basically co parent our children for the rest of my life. I want to live and love and laugh again. I want it to be you but if you won't recognize the fact that we have to work everyday on things than it won't work.This just isn't about you, I am reaching out to you AGAIN to tell you to start getting it right or get out"

She said - " What am I doing? I'm not mean, I'm not rude, if this is about sex you know I am struggling with that right now"

I Said " It's not just S, it's intimacy, it's affection, it's friendship, it's mommy & daddy time, it's the little things couples do that make the little problems go away or never show up. Let me ask You - are you still talking to OM?"

She said " I have"

I said " Get out - I am tired of it, I was tired of it - good luck to you."

She said " I'm not leaving - I'm not doing anything wrong, I told you i cared and that I was struggling with that also, why can't you understand that I am F*d up right now and I am trying"

I said " " You told me you didn't talk to your family @ the sitch because you didn't want them in your biz. Well maybe you should have becase they wouldn't have tried to use it to get you in bed. You allowed that to happen it has affected your marriage, you know how i feel about you talking to OM and you still do it. I agree with you YOU ARE F*D Up -goodnite"