- We usually don't appreciate what we have. - We usually don't appreciate what we have until it's gone - We want what we don't have - We want what we don't have especially if someone else has what we don't have - We rebel against that which tries to control us - We attribute value to things in high demand (if everyone could step outside their home and grab a handful of perfect, flawless diamonds in our flowerbeds they probably wouldn't be worth alot of money
When your husband had you, he didn't appreciate what he had.
So very true. Sometimes when I think I might want him back, I wonder if it's just because he is gone. It's so confusing. The thing is, IF I want him back, having him think I have a man isn't helping my case.
Originally Posted By: robx
If he thinks that someone else is interested in you, think about what this does in his head: I had her, didn't want her, let her go, now someone else wants her, someone else might have her now, did I make a mistake, did I let go of something valuable, is she something valuable, maybe I want what I had back....
Hence the interest, hence the crappy attitude, the questions, the curiousity.
Don't tell him anything, don't satisfy his curiousity, continue doing what you're doing, watch him ask more questions, watch him become more interested ;-)
This might be true for a "regular" guy, but my H does not have the jealousy or insecurity wiring. I doubt that his interest is in what I am doing. It's the kids. He doesn't want me exposing them to someone I have only known "two months" and spoken to maybe "100 hours, but that could be an over estimation", "unless it was going on before we were separated". All quotes are his words.
None of this indicates anything except concern for the kids, and I don't like the implication that I would jeopardize their safety. He should know better.
This morning, he sent me a text telling me that I can't move more than 3 hours away. Um, random.
If your advice is to not tell him anything, should I at least tell him the kids are safe??
