Libby, He's not thinking....or should I say he doesn't care right now. He wants to show off his flat to his daughter. As for another step out of the fog? I seriously doubt it. They have moments of sanity and then go right back into the hole.
Please try not to analyze his behavior. He's all over the map and will be that way for many months to come. You'll drive yourself insane trying to figure out whether he's stepping out of the fog or what he is doing.
Keep the focus on you and your family.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
H came home to talk to our children about increasing the amount of time he spends with them. He is now coming once per weeek to pick them up from school, cook tea (including mine) and leave about 10pm. He is also looking to come every other weekend to take the boys swimming.
D19 had a long frank talk with him. H acknowledge what had happened to the family when he left and how he wanted to help now. He gets anxious and palpatations when he comes home and he has to deal with this. D19 asked if he had made the right choice and he said yes he had.He then wanted to go over the reasons why he left, which D 19 declined to hear. It came across as him justifying his reasons again.
Watching him today he was very angry when he arrived and uncomfortable with the children. For most of the visit I kept out of the way, busying myself around the house.
H came to talk to me a couple of times i.e to ask what I would like have for tea on Thurs.
I suppose I can expect him to continue telling everyone he made the right decision leaving here as he is still in replay and with OW. It's still hard to hear though.
At least he is making more contact with the children which is a positive thing.
