Thank you for the sound advice. Should I stop allowing him to come to the house for things like doing laundry, etc. I have thought about this quite a bit lately about not allowing him in the home any longer, but I'm teetering back in forth between totally dark and being friends.
He did however spend time with me as opposed to OW and she was calling him while we were together, looking for him I suppose and I even caught her driving by my home yesterday perhaps looking for him as well. I don't feel that she should be that secure in the relationship either considering he ruined his life and his marriage already. I did have to laugh a little to myself when I saw her because she now knows how it feels to be searching for him and no idea where he is just as I did when I would find him at her home.