Realize this...the things you need to do from here on out in order to survive and move on successfully with your life without her...are the SAME things you need to do in order for there to be a reconciliation! So, you have nothing to lose by doing them, and everything to gain by doing them. Make sense? Do as you were advised in my first post to you. Stop being afraid. It's understandable, and we all have been there...BUT, many of us have now realized that fear was an emotion that did us absolutely no good at all in our situations. And it will do you no good at all either in your situation...so stop being afraid. Go to work on you, and let the motivation to do the work be because IT NEEDS TO BE DONE...PERIOD. Don't do it to get her back, and don't do it for any other reason other than the one I gave you. You need to be healthy, strong, powerful, secure, confident, and compassionate...first and foremost. So go to work on those things for yourself. This is what you need to do REGARDLESS of anything else. And remember this...you must be compassionate with yourself as well as compassionate with others. You must love yourself as well as loving others. The Golden Rule was based on the premise that we "love others as we LOVE OURSELVES"! Get to work Inpainstill. And good luck.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
