Calling out the Piecers

[dday101798]

Oh my goodness, am I SO glad the weekend is over.

Little lesson learned, you can patch up and piece with your X all you want and be happy and content. BUT, some folks may not like that too much.

Christmas eve, good night, my cousin was a bit down, but spending time with our neighbors. Her younger son stopped by and in the blink of an eye, we decided to add some Christmas feel to the house and put up the full size tree versus the litte table topper Charlie Brown she had out. She seemed appreciative and well off with. We opted to finish cleaning in the morning and head ff to bed early.

Christmas day, we all got up at 6am, had some coffee and finished the cleaning. All the while, (x)W had never finished up plans for what time she wanted me to pick them up. Apparently she up late the nihgt before wrapping presents and all. So, I gave her some time, but with the constraint I HAD to be back by around 12:30 to get dinner rolling.

Well, (x)W wanted me to be there for the kids to open their presents so we were running a bit late, not too bad 1:00ish, including a stop off that my cousin asked me to do for her. All seemed to be going well, dinner was being rushed but nearly on-time, and everybody seemed to be receptive of (x)W's return. We were using the neighbors kitchen to cook the ham and some potatoes that I was in charge of. So, I went to glaze the ham and (x)W offered to help carry stuff back, along with S12.

The ham was running just a few minutes behind, so instead of 10 it was about 15, so (x)W and I had stayed there with S12, had a smoke and got evrything done. No sooner than I pull the ham out of the oven, my cousin comes barreling through the door, ranting that the "reunion is next door" and all this stuff I ahve no idea what the hell happened.

I tried to explain the ham running slow, but she wanted no part of it as to insinuate (x)W and I ahd some wild fling going on in the neighbors house. She really belittled me and made me feel like I used to when my parents were actually around. I bit my tongue as long as I could before snapping and everything turned into a screaming match, insults flying and me defending (x)W like no other.

Cousnins sons put her in check finally and calmed her down as I was rustling to get the kids and (x)W together and just leave, and almost permanently. In the end, cousin says it was all about her H (deceased) and being lonely, and her sons validated what she has done time and time again and I've called her out on before, is that when she gets upset, she picks a target and goes for it. This time around, it was me (again) for having a second chance at a family again.

Completely insane it was. She was accusing me of being out all hours of the night alst week, "partying" with (x)W when we WERE SHOPPING.

She's apologized time and time again, but I can't take this anymore and it's time to go. It's a new year, new decade and just time to re-gain my life. Thank god I've already booked session with the Psych.

Otherwise, things with (x)W are great. Despite all the chaos of Christmas, we're doing very well. She spent the night on Christmas. Her, I and S11 shcked up on the bed. All we did was hold each other to sleep and man do I miss that.

Satruday, (x)W wanted some "us time" to make up for the disaster that Christmas was. Unfortuantely she ended up being sick with a stomache bug and her uncle wasn't home yet to anhg with the boys. So, since I was already there, we just hung out a bit and watched some TV while I held her, so nice, until I shortly ended up being sick. Ended up staying with her for the second night in a row, and althogh sick, it was heavenly.

Turns out, what she really wanted to do was grab something to eat and then "stay somewhere" for the night.

O-well, pleanty of time for that to come.

We are however very intent to live together soon. (x)FIL said he'd sell (our) house for a reasonable price to her. So, I don't know. It just seems like maybe our best chance is to just move away as extened family on both sides is just not accepting this in anyway.

So be it in our house or an apartment, we can't take being aprt much longer. I have gotten a lot of re-assurance from (x)W that things with OM weren't all they were cracked up to be and that I needent worry about anything. I did say again, she needs to understand when I do.

So, that completes the Christmas from hell.