How did you resolve the effect the abuse might have had on your sexuality? And what do you mean by commitment issues?
I was lucky that my parents believed me when I eventually told them what was going on and I started counselling early (at about 13) and stayed in therapy until I was about 18. My counsellor was good and she helped me understand what had happened - why it wasn't about me and taught me skills to separate my chosen experiences from those that were out of my control.
I also think I live in a slightly more permissive culture and generation which has contributed to a healthier perception of my sexuality than might be the case for an older middle class American woman.
The drawback for me has been that during all those formative years of counselling, the therapy was based around learning to be strong and independent - almost a Marxist rather than feminist approach to life - so I learned that if I was economically and emotionally independent, I wouldn't need to rely on anyone (in particular any man) so no one could "hurt" me. That's made it tough for the men in my life because I don't trust myself to be vulnerable. I equate being vulnerable with being weak, hence at risk. (I've read the Schnarch level 6 debate with interest and wonder!!!)
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Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.
