Robx Will this really work? She was indeed bothered about this other woman thing. It seems if I did what you are suggesting it would drive her away. Anyway, thanks for the pep talk. I'm going for it.
Nope none of what I said will work, I'm just a long winded ba$tard that loves to hear himself speak.... LOL!
Can't you tell that she's not used to the subtle changes you've recently implemented? You yourself have posted comments that she remarked like "who told you to say that? where did you get that from?"
Guess what?
She noticed something different.
You stepped off the path and she noticed, she hadn't noticed you at all until you started doing things differently.
Can anyone guarantee you 100% anything on this site?
NO.
Not even the DB coaches themselves can offer you that guarantee.
However I know that women test men as much as I know that human beings require food, water & oxygen to survive.
Women testing men is a survival mechanism and it isn't going to be phased by tens of thousands of years of evolution anytime soon. The reason why I say this is because attraction itself isn't something you can force, you are attracted to the people you are attracted to and that is beyond your choice.
A woman doesn't look at a man and say: "Good skin, decent height, educated, intelligent, nice, well mannered, good job, etc. I will be attracted to him, fall in love, get married and make babies"
Are you attracted to every single woman you look at? Or are you attracted to specific women with specific characteristics? Would you say your attraction is a choice or is it something involuntary?
Attraction between men & women is related to women testing men.
You've killed the attraction by acting in a specific way with your wife, it took several years to accomplish this but you did enough things and flicked enough kill switches that your wife's instincts eventually kicked in and said it's time to seek out a new mate, this one isn't masculine & attractive enough anymore.
I can't tell you what you did specifically but you did enough things to kill the attraction and I don't see you as sounding like a jerk to think that's what did it, if anything the exact opposite that along with her possibly being bored out of her mind.
So yes, doing the things that I've outlined are going to change the momentum. You will begin to appear more masculine which is a good thing and this will change the existing dynamic. But you can't just act those things out, you have to really do them, you have to really believe them.
Your wife is used to walking all over you and getting her way, you no longer present a challenge to her, that's why she's bullying you in her own way and getting her way with you. Plus I'll bet that in every argument you have with her, she gets her way, she even turns an argument around that you are 100% correct in and makes you feel bad for bringing up the subject in the end.
She also seems aggressive, assertive, a little bit more masculine than you are yourself and you sound passive, too easy going, too complacent, you probably supplement alot of your actions with gift giving behavior,etc and a little more feminine than she is. I could be wrong and I may be reading too much into this but I'm pretty sure I have a pretty good idea of the situation as it stands at your end.
