What can I do to save my marriage? Help

[Ready2Change]

She continued to push me for a reason that I contacted the woman. She gave me her reason which was: it had been two months since we had been together and I was selfishly looking for some action and also wanted someone who would idolize me. This is what she was thinking

Best response "I can see why you would think that" AND SHUT UP AND LISTEN SOME MORE. She will tell you things.

I told her I wanted to see her response. She said “that is so junior high and I was manipulating and using this other woman for my own gain.” I suppose she is right, but I only asked how her Christmas was. How could this be leading this other woman on?

DO NOT REVEAL YOUR TRUE INTENTIONS. Let her imagination go wild and then listen, empathize and validate...