My thoughts? Heck, I'm impressed the two of you finally communicated.
I think your comments about the two of you needing time apart to work on your own issues was good.
"commended me on what a great mother I am and also said i always put others first, that i dont need to do that ALL of the time"
Are you listening? Yes, go ahead with DB'ng and GAL'ing... get him to watch the kids while you go out and enjoy yourself for a change. Not too often, but often enough!
EDIT: Oh, and please put in the BS... it helps figure out his state of mind
