When one person is incapable or unwilling to recognizing another person's reality and perspective, you have abuse.
This describes a disagreement, not abuse
A disagreement is when you recognize how the other person feels and how they view the situation, but you view it differently and feel differently. You do not have to agree with a person to recognize their perspective and reality.
Abuse is when the other doesn't even acknowledge that your feelings are your feelings, that your viewpoint is your viewpoint.
Or if those are acknowledged as existing at all, insisting that you are wrong to feel the way you feel. Or that you are in error about your personal experience when you have just clearly and honestly conveyed it to him.
Most of all, it is not caring how you feel, what you think, or what you need. It is being treated as non-existent as a person in your own right.
That, I believe, is how cookie's H treated her and it is emotional abuse.
