K4D It's a Wonderful Life

[Strongerthanthis]

Hi K4D,

A message for everyone on K4D's thread, but mainly for Kevin.

1. To help Kevin
2. To make people helping him think, and God bless you for helping him.

I won't go into detail, you can search my name and get my story but first bomb 3 1/2 years ago separation 3 years ago. together 20 years.

What I have learnt.

When you get the bomb, just read this forum and it's almost identical, same reason whether MLC or not. They always seem to have given it because there is someone in the wings.

Rule one, It is never about you. good bad or ugly once there is someone else, back off basic of DB look after yourself (easier said than done, bearing in mind this is coming from someone who has taken over 3yrs to get it)

I read on here and see it just going around and around, there are many wise people on here, you can see from their posts who can get it straight away and when you do stick with them like glue. For you Kevin I think it's 25 listen and learn.

For me the person who speaks with depth and understanding is Bworl, I've spent far to many hours on here and this man has more insight than anyone I've come across so if he goes on any ones thread, please be thankful.

Now this thread has made me learn, I relate so much to Kevin it's quite weird, Yes the sooner you move on the better but as you all know when you spend your life with someone and it all crashes it is utter devastation. Some move faster than others there is no right or wrong at the speed it is always right for the person at that time.

To everyone out there getting frustrated with Kevin, just think back to your own bomb and how utterly lost you were. If you move quicker well done. Your helping for a reason, because you can.

This may sound preaching as I've not contributed, but I am now.

I've decide to write as a line in Kevin's post about having a great Christmas, doing so well and then going home and crying realizng it really is over is exactly what I did 3 years down the line.

To everyone, the basics, look after yourself, there is no race.

Take care
Charlie