ANY psychiatrist is going to tell you not to take the girls out of their school...it will be destructive...
Yes, he said this to me...
should i look forward to the psychiatrist asking h how the dissoultion of a family is gonna be any less destructive? especially when one spouse isnt willing to even TRY to work out simple issues??
g, humor me...please
me 39 h 38 kids 9 and 6 h left 8/9/09 loving and devoted wife and mother still going...10 months later...
Lost, I can't "humor" you because there was no humor in your above post. He's talking crap! Plain and simple. A psychiatrist asking him that question will just get his back up.
I wish that someone would chime in and give a different opinion because I'm not in the "right place" at the moment to be offering advice and my opinion would be biased and could be detrimental to you at the moment.
You need to go dark, detach/NC. Don't worry about all this other stuff. Make him do the work and serve you with papers. Stop pushing him to do it. Do your DB/DR. Listen to what the people on the MLC board are saying.
he has made fun of my getting support from any source, doesnt care means nothing...
a honest question...i asked earlier... how do i go dark with the girls not being affected?
i have calmed down...not in panic mode any longer. i intend on doing WHATEVER it takes
i must admit with how much he has said to hurt me the past few days, i think this will become a bit easier to not want to be around the person he is being.
I fear for our girls not having a father during all of this.
he is good to them, and the certainly deserve that...
it is hard to focus on me when i have so much concern for them
me 39 h 38 kids 9 and 6 h left 8/9/09 loving and devoted wife and mother still going...10 months later...
He can't make you and girls move without any agreement or court order in place, that's not the case right now, so cut it there. Ignore his unreasonable requests. You could say "We can talk about it later" and switch the subject.
Work on detaching and GAL.
If he's good to the girls, you don't need to worry about him abandoning them now. They are his choices and there's nothing you can do about it, so put that weight off your shoulders. You are doing the best you can DBing.
then get dressed up... get out of the house... take the well-deserved break and visit with friends... and come home extremely late... then don't answer a damned thing about your whereabouts.
If what is good for the goose is good for the gander... then its time to pluck some duck.
