So, the two boys have been having too much togetherness, and they're starting to bicker and fight w/each other... you know the tap here, the little smack there, pulling someone's hat off, etc...
Also, can I say, that H is "one of them" and instigates the behavior a lot, thinking it's funny. Telling S10 to do something he knows will irk the bro (but, it's "cute," right?). Telling S12 to do something that will irk the bro (just "gettin' ya back," right?).
MOST of the time, it's all playful and fun.
This am, everyone is getting ready, and H is taking them bowling w/my family. Just before they leave, H yells my name, looking for me. They all three come in the bathroom, where I'm getting ready. The boys have tears in their eyes, but not crying, and H has that pissed off look on his face.
Apparently, they were doing things to each other (funny, the things H tells them to do to irk each other), and S12 gets pissed, pulls S10's hat off (and breaks a tassle - his NEW FAVE hat, btw...), and it gets a bit worse, mostly yelling.
H goes up to see what's going on, gets pissed about them arguing again (really?), and brings them to me (love it). They tell me what's going on, and H is standing behind them seething. He tells one to go to one bathroom, and the other to go to another bathroom, and tells them they're staying there until HE gets back from bowling/lunch, and they will not have any fun. They'll learn to get along.
Now, don't worry, these are beautiful, comfortable bathrooms, so they're not suffering! LoL
So, my only reply to all of this is... "Boys, do me a favor, please keep your body parts off of each other, and each others things, EVEN IF one of US tells you to."
I mean, seriously, H, who NEVER disciplines, has to go completely over the top, when he does, AND THEN, disciplines them for reacting to actions he's taught them to do!
AYEAYEAYE!
I let him rant around the house a bit, and then told him to have a good time. When he left, I checked on both boys, and they looked ready to take a nap on the rugs (not sure they cared they were there! Ha!). In the meantime, H calls back, and says he told them they have ruined the day, will come out when he decides to come home, and after that, until he decides, there will be NO interaction whatsoever between them. They will learn to get along.
Niiiiiiice!
Ya see what I'm dealing w/here?
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
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