I'm sorry for your situation. But you're in a good place, being here, under the circumstances. You must realize from this point on that you have NO CONTROL over anybody else, especially your wife, other than yourself. That's paramount. So don't even bother trying to control or influence her in any way. The only person you can control is you. That's the bottom line. So keep that in mind. Sounds like you have much work to do on yourself. So let that be your focus. The stuff with your wife is out of your hands right now. There may be something there in the future, or maybe not. But either way, you have to focus on you and get yourself in a better place. Bridgestone mentioned 'Love Without Hurt' by Steven Stosny...that's where I would start. Read this book, study it, learn what it teaches, and apply it to yourself and your life. Stop concerning yourself with her and what she's doing, and focus on you...because YOU are the only thing that you have any say so over right now. And you, admittedly, know there is work there to do. So start to do it. There is much good information on this board. Stay here...to learn and vent. Good luck to you.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
