I have always been the spender as well, but I think these contrasts are what makes us good partners since we compliment each other in the right ways (until the differences start creating issues).
In my situtation, my W transitioned from someone who frowned on any spending (she never thought we needed a new car, new house ,etc she was very practical vs. myself). About 2 years ago that changed. Any expense related to her own self-improvement (trainers, expensive bikes, plastic surgery, etc) were OK. It was a marked turnaround for her since she used to be so thrifty.
Your W hasn't changed in that way. Have you guys actually figured out how much support she would get if she had a job like her previous one? Has she really digested the economic impact of a S/D? Given her focus on $$$s I would think this would be a big factor in her decision-making.
ME/XW:47 S21, D19, S15, S14 M:21 T:26 W moved 6/10 I filed 7/10 D final 4/12 remarried 8/12 W wants to R 12/10 and 4/11 but I decline
