As concerned as my W is about money, she does not appear to be looking for A job. Instead, she's looking for THE job. Well, if you want to help out with money, find something that will help US.
Has your W always been this way, or only concerned about money when she thought about being single/D? I think if I remember back from earlier in your thread you had said she was always like this in one way or another (concerned about money) and it makes sense given how her parents are.
My W is now, after 20+ years working only 2 days a week (which I was always in favor of and even wanted her to work less at times because we had 4 kids), suddently motivated to work more (but not a lot more). With 2 kids about to enter college I would have been supportive of this but only her desire to be single is motivating her. If it wasn't for this selfish need she wouldn't consider it. This really frys me - she is motivated to work more but not to help the family, only herself. I guess any more income either of us generates helps the family, whether we are paying for 2 households or 1.
I suspect if you get going with a separation/D agreement your W will balk in some way. The fact that she has skills will impact how much support you pay (or don't pay) hopefully, forcing her to get moving on earning an income. These are all ingredients involved with facing reality.
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During our service, there is a part where the congregation exchanges the "peace" where people shake hands and spouses actually, kiss each other (Wow), and that part of the service has been awkward ever since the bomb. She usually solve that issue by sitting in a seperate pew from me.
My W is always the one who was getting us to go to church. She would take my kids many times alone without me, which I now regret looking back. However, in the past year the # of times my W went to church can be counted on one hand. It is a major change, even though our kids are involved with the church's religious education programs, etc. She has a very low opinion of herself fueled by her guilt over what she is doing with our M (and presumably OM) which is a facto I believe.
However, I have noticed the same thing as you about exchanging 'peace'. She would always grab me and kiss me during this ritual and she even did it this past Easter (the last time she kissed me actually), but the other day on xmas she only shook my hand. She might have done more if I had leaned over but I wasn't interested. I am only interested in affection she willingly gives at this point.
ME/XW:47 S21, D19, S15, S14 M:21 T:26 W moved 6/10 I filed 7/10 D final 4/12 remarried 8/12 W wants to R 12/10 and 4/11 but I decline
