The posters are correct...he will take only what he wants at that moment and leave the rest behind. He will take things that you would not have ever thought he would want. They leave a lot of their clothes and personel effects behind. Why? Because they are reminders of who they were pre MLC.
I would set my boundaries and stick to them. I think you were very wise about him calling first. He walked, he no longer lives there, therefore, he needs to respect your privacy. You certainly aren't going to show up at his place. Please be sure to put anything that you feel as confidential and/or private in a safe place. They have a way of snooping around.
The anger is from guilt and they need that anger to fuel their justification for leaving us. It's part of their depression.
I have to agree w/Grace, I wouldn't do too much for him...he's being a putz right now and doesn't deserve it.
Do they ever come back and ask for things? Yes. My xh has been gone 10 years this month, divorce 7 years and he still asks for things. My answer...no, check out your copy of the divorce decree. They think we will be friends w/them and accept what they've done forever and a day.
Take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
