I like you am scared and alone , my husband left me Nov.8 2009 we have an anniversary Jan 2 will be 28 years we have been a couple since we were 17. I have cried myself to sleep wondering how this happened , he told me he didnt love me anymore , he had been uphappy for long time ,he wanted a divorce no work on it ,but he hasnt filed at all , he calls me or texts me often , we have even had sex quite a few times . As a matter he said he would go off with me the weekend of the 15 , 16, 17 of Jan , I couldnt believe it.I know how you feel I still cant stop myself from wanting to see him or worry about him, he came for Christmas Eve, and asked to come back Christmas day. He didnt stay long but he wanted to be there , but I have to ask myself was it just the holidays that made him want to be with me and the kids, or did he really miss us.Our kids are grown but still live in the house for different reasons . I know not healthy and they are both hoping to be out by June this year. Like you I am confused and I want to detach myself to see what happens,just afraid. I have talked to alot of woman I work with how they feel but I would like to address a man whos wife has left and ask you , if you still want the marriage , I still believe in my marriage and love my husband very much.Men out there do you and your spouse still getting together for sex , does it mean that a part of him still loves even if he says he doesnt ? I would love for someone to help me understand. All of us are hurting , and I cant speak for yall but I just want to understand what is going thru his mind . I am trying to let him set the pace but it is very upsetting and it hurts everytime he leaves.If anyone wants to talk one on one thru email just to boost each other thru this , only if you want to save your marriage, thats what I want to do. But I am having hard time detaching. I feel for everyone of us and I pray to God everyday that he will help me save my marriage, so I will say a prayer for all of us.
