i have read about going dark...with kids, how to do this?
I started by just totatly not talking at all. If you feel you need to say something just make it short and validate whatever he is saying. I am sleeping in the same bed as my alien. We have big bed and we sleep on opposite sides. Don't touch. I have to make my own food, wash my own clothes. Basically we are separated but living together.
Your number one priority is your children. You focus on them and making their life good! With time we have started comunicating more but mostly all business type conversations. No talk about R. She told me that we should Sep. and I should move out of the house. I said NO you move out. End of conversation. My W is very depressed and she goes back in her tunnel and leaves me alone. You need to set some boundaries to protect yourself.
There is an article on detachment on the livestrong website. I will see if I can find you a link.
Gno suggested you reread your own threads you have gotten good suggestions, look at them again.
