Get the DB book and read it. You might find it at the library. Your first 180 is you. Look in the mirror and fix yourself. Ask yourself if you were your W would you want to be in this R. I hear that there are other issues but the only person you can control is YOU. If you make the changes to yourself then good things will follow.
I think the question about where you were living is in relationship to your W. Are you living together or are you S.
