newmama, instead of talking with the kids about their Dad I am just there for them when he screws up - we will go today and see the movie he promised to watch with them - he stopped by this morning to say good bye and is now on the way to the airport with his sister.
WAH had promised to have a look at the leak over X-Mas but just glanced at it quickly this morning and left.I will get that also sorted in January.I have decided that it's time to stop worrying about his reactions.
I got a few financial documents signed by him this morning so I don't need to contact him anymore and have set up a standing order from our joint account to my own one for the weekly support to be transferred from the 7th of January on - by that date my payment is in my account too so I am ok financially from then on.
I think this X- Mas has opened my eyes to the reality a little more and not in a good way - I am not even sure if my husband is still in his body somewhere or is this selfish man all that's left???
It's time for a dark NC!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am not sure yet if I will write a letter or not. He will receive a last email from me beginning of January to outline when he can contact the kids.
I always wanted to go NC to get my husband back but now I think first of all I have to heal to a certain extent - it helped me a lot already that finally the truth about the "tenant story" came out.My gut feeling was correct and that's good.
