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[wolverine1997]

Got really upset with wife today. Father in-law came over to visit today. He bought my wife's youngest sister and her son. A while back, (before my wife began current behavior) my wife and I decided not to associate with her youngest sister. We would be pleasant and nice to her but not associate with her or allow her to hang out at our house or watch the kids. (This was because of her lifestyle and a lot of things that she was doing that we didn't approve of. It's a loooooong story). Well today her dad shows up with her and they all go to the show and then come to our house to have pizza and watch TV. I was totally shocked because as far as I know her bahavior has not changed.

I left to go to work and after a few hours I called home to ask my wife about her sister. I wanted to know why she was bringing her to the house and hanging out with her? I asked her if sister had changed her lifestyle any? My wife got upset and said that she didn't know and then began asking me why I didn't bring this up while her sister was over at the house. I kept cool and stated the obvious, that I was concerned about her allowing the kids to hang out with her. She said that she hadn't thought about that and did not know if her sister had made any changes but that she would call her parents and ask them. I never heard back from my wife.

Now I ask all of you. Was I out of place for questioning my wife on this? It really bothered me but I did not let my wife know that. I was cool and pleasant the whole time that they were there. As far as I know her sister is still doing the same foolishness as before. In my opinion my wife should have at least talked to me before her sister showed up. This is just another one of those situations where reasonable communication could have prevented a lot of heartburn.