Norm914: Thanks for slapping me a bit. I am predictable, do look weak and have accepted crumbs of affection. Things just changed though (see my new thread). Now that the EA is over she appears to be looking for a replacement. I'm going to ask her about MC the day after we get back from Disney World on Jan 3. Trouble is that I'm growing cold now. I thought it was just one guy and that it simply happened when she wasn't expecting it. Please keep giving me ideas to man up and become more attractive and mysterious in case I stick it out. I'm at the point where she needs to decide she wants me or both of us move on with our lives. I'm not sure whether to confront her over match.com and her emails. Your advice?
Goldey: I thought I was clearly hearing from God to save our M but now that she's expressing interest in men on match.com I am not sure what I'm hearing or feeling. It could also be God releasing me from a lousy spouse who has cheated on me. I thought I would wait out her getting over the EA but I don't know that I can wait out ongoing pursuit of new guys. Good point about sudden moves. I was confident in not making any but now I'm so ticked off that I just want to serve her divorce papers and let reality hit home. She doesn't work but could. It may cost me in monthly support for her and our S10 but she has never had a clue about finances or living within our means or budget. A court ordered one will change her life in ways she never imagined. I know what is keeping her here is our kids and no money. If she wants a change, she may get it. I appreciate your ongoing input.
