First off, I feel so bad for your kids. My emotional response is to leave him and find a better man to replace him as the kids' stepdad. But DBing isn't about listening to your emotions.

Bestrong what do you say to the kids? How do you comfort them when their dad flakes out and neglects them? Or are they just used to this by now? You said you were shocked. It's NC Hammer time....sorry it is time for dark NC. That is me thinking logically IMO. NC for this cold alien who isn't your H.


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The number 1 advantage of scheduling is - there is no room for flexibility at the start. Flexibility leads to arguments, anger, grief, hassle and tantrums. Agree a strict schedule and adhere to it unless there is an emergency.

Sorry BS. I've been here before. Schedules are the ONLY way to go IMO.


it's true.WRITTEN down. I think you go NC, letter or no, and schedule the times he can talk to his kids. So that way, when/if he calls, the kids can answer, not you.

I'm glad you and the kids had a fun time at your friend's house playing games! They will always remember that! As well as the fact that dad wasn't there :-(

((bestrong))

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004