Any tips to deal with Jealousy on my part

[newmama]

First of all, I bet we have all felt like hurting the OP or worse...but then I remember she has a little girl and if I got caught, (LOL) I have a little baby boy to take care of and don't want an arrest record. (no, I wouldn't seriously do anything other than scream at her)

Secondly, never underestimate the power of mentally rehearsing how to act(body language and tone of voice) or what to say when your STBXW baits you. So what helps me is picturing the worst thing my WH could say and then picturing myself acting composed and responding calmly but with a prepared phrase. I don't know what your STBXW says to you and maybe you wouldn't need to say anything.

Last, if there is an OM, lock up your golf clubs (LOL-sorry, had to make a joke) no but spending time with buddies or family will really help you. Getting away sounds like a good one...but I did not want to be alone when I found out about OW. That's just me.