What can I do to save my marriage? Help

[Sleepy]

The master bedroom plan went into effect today. My W went out to workout for most of the day. I wasn’t clued into her plans. I took care of the kids and subsequently missed my own workout. I think she went to lunch with someone but I’m not sure. It was strange that she brought a sandwich to my daughter from Panara when she picked her up from her gymnastics when we have a refrigerator filled with food. That just didn’t add up.

Next, I started the counter-intuitive seduction. I texted the woman that has been sending me her phone number which is concerning my W. I just said “How was your Christmas” That was it. The woman took the bait and sent me something back. I left my phone out so my W could see it.

I was in the shower in the guest room above the garage when my W confronted me. She said that she needed to speak with me right now. I knew what it was about and just took my time. She asked about the woman.... I played dumb then told her that I was just asking about her Christmas...That was it. She didn’t believe me. She thinks something is going on between us. I then went into discussing all the boundaries that she had crossed which I didn’t approve of. Oh yeah...she said that I was getting off the subject.

That was my signal to tell her that I was moving back into the master bedroom. I told her that it had been two months and I had respected her need to have her space long enough but now it was time that I moved back. This is the marital bedroom and if she valued our marriage she would respect my decision. Robx, I even asked her to give me a good reason why I shouldn’t move back, and she couldn’t. She said that she would not stoop to being a whore and sleep with me. I didn’t touch that. I suppose that’s what she feels like when she is with me. It was a cutting thing to say to me, but if that’s how she feels.....well. What about her affair? She has got it all backwards.

She resisted and did everything that all of you said that she would. I told her that I wasn’t forcing her to leave the room. That was her choice. I wanted her to stay. She said I was showing my true colors and I was being mean to her. She threatened me with divorce next week and was going to go after me for everything I’ve got, but I didn’t budge. I was “The Rock” She was really confused. “Who is telling you to do this?”

She got pissed, threw all my books out of the bookcase and papers of mine in the trash and demanded that I get all my stuff out of there. I did, and even cleaned up the bathroom for her to make it a bit more hospitable for her. She stormed off in the car to get some stuff from Bed Bath and Beyond. I later asked how long do you think I would have been out there before we made up? She said “13 years”, so this was a good move for sure. I would have been waiting a long time.

Our kids eat at the bar in the middle of the kitchen. There are only 3 stools. We parents end up standing to eat. It bugs the crap out of me that we don’t sit at the table and eat like a regular family.

While my W stormed around fixing up her room, I fixed up the plates and the kids and I sat at the table for dinner and ate like a real family. My W later joined us. She was civil for the rest of the evening. We even laughed at something.

I don’t know what will happen. I’m in the MB now and I’m comfortable. I suppose she is going to get a lawyer and go after me, but I guess it’s better that I’m comfortable for the rest of my days here in this house before I get railroaded.

I’ll keep everyone updated. After I did this, I knew it was the right thing to do. All of her softening she has been showing me has been an act. I've got her really confused now though...