how to 180 when you've been too independent?

[avermont]

Cutter, you have never been more right.

Woe to those who will not detach! Who ask their xMIL for information! I am set back several months of healing.

I just wanted to know if it was "safe" to go to the bar. If I can get past the inevitable event of seeing them together, I might be able to make progress. At this point, it is a giant looming boogyman waiting to jump out at me.

So I asked; I find out he is giving OW grand tour of family; I am shattered.

At my sister's right now; tomorrow fly to NM to spend a week. Hopefully be busy enough to regain some ground.

Thanks for all your support. I am just about cried out now.

I so now see the value of detaching. Back to work on that.