1. W could say "well I'm not getting my emotional needs met in this marriage anyway, so I don't care" (background: she said that if it weren't for S4 she would have moved out)
2. W could get mad at me. I would handle this calmly and respectfully, firmly outlining the boundaries. This seems like it would sabotage my efforts to build a positive emotional balance.
When you set boundaries, you cannot worry about how your W may respond. Your main goal is to stand up to her and claim respect. Your W must respect you before she can love you. If you are afraid that she will leave you....or that she'll get mad, then you are going to appear as weak, clingy, needy, etc. That is very unattractive to a woman.
What were you like when she fell in love with you? Can you be that man again?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
