Well, I'm back, did you miss me? It has been a few minutes since my last thread. I'll come up with some earth shattering item to share later, it's time to cook dinner and do the laundry. Later dbers.
Year 9 for me - so I should be 3 times further removed from all this than you - LOL! Truthfully - we each move through it at our own pace and in our own way - no right, no wrong as each situation is different.
At this time from one Canadian to another just want to wish you a happy holiday season. It is so nice to hear that you have such a warm relationship with your daughters and such a strong faith. This will help you immensely in the years to come.
Each year gets easier as time and acceptance help us along. I would like to wish you a wonderful Christmas and the best year ever in 2010.
Thanks Barb, consider those viewing fees waived and cuz you're my first visitor you get a special thank you, Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year! What's not to love about this new thread, eh? Don't you love what I've done with the place? Anyway, Christmas for me will be having dinner with STBX and daughters on Christmas Eve at her place. I've been invited to sleep over (in the basement...alone, of course) and opening stockings and presents together in the morning. In the afternoon we will all head to my parents for dinner and more present opening with the rest of my family. I did ask D's and STBX to join me at a Christmas Eve church service but it was a no go, my faith is mine alone. Tonight the girls and I went to Canadian Tire to get a decoration each for my Christmas tree. We buy a new decoration each every year and the girls look forward to this little ritual. We also bought a Santa and a Noel wreath for 70% off. I decided to get some Christmas decor besides the treefor my apartment. Well, that's it for now, I gotta go before my D12 starts to have Facebook withdrawls. All the best my fellow Canuckian!
Hats off to you and your STBX for maintaining a cordial relationship and being able to be in the same house together for the sake of your girls at special times. This would not be possible with a live-in OP as many of us had to deal with. My ex was living with his OW within a month of me learning there was something wrong. She has not been a part of our lives and my children choose to keep it that way.
I bought my kids a new ornament every year until recently (youngest is 21). They have their own set of ornaments for when they start their own family traditions. At this point - 2 still live at home and the other will be home for the holidays. He is lucky to have time off from both of his Toronto jobs.
New traditions replace old ones in time and adjustments have to be made. Nice that you were able to get such a good deal on your new decorations. I love Canadian Tire. I can see one from my house! Nice to be able to walk there.
My kids all went out with their dad on Saturday for lunch and gifts. He will probably not even call them on Christmas. Even after 8 years my 17 year old son says "Mom, I can't really talk to Dad. He just makes me feel depressed. He doesn't even know me anymore". So not all is well with their relationship but happily - ours is good and close and my 2 youngest are still very close despite the fact that he is 6 years older and lives away from home.
OK, off to gitter dun! Best wishes for a great holiday.
Hey, the best part is that my purchases were all from "Money on the Card", ya know, that free money they give ya for just using their Mastercard. I've never paid a penny in interest but get plenty of use out of that free money they give me from every purchase! Anyway, today was a really nice day. I phoned STBX and asked her if D12 and I could come and visit her at her new workplace. She was really happy about the idea. I brought along some scented pine cones in a container for her to keep in her office. So D and I drove downtown, through the traffic from hell, and STBX gave is a tour and introduced us to her workmates. At one point STBX slipped, normally she introduces me as Whatis but one time she said "this is my...my..." and I jumped in "I'm her daughters father" and STBX said "yes, he's her father". STBX took us out for Burritos for lunch and then D and I said our farewells and went for a tour of the main street in the area and bought a really cute and neat little nativity scene for the apartment. The whole scene is in a gift box and the characters are attached to each portion of the box so that when you unfold the gift box the nativity scene presents itself...if that makes any sense. We stopped at the post office to pick up a parcel that was there for me and it was my Qi Gong DVD's I'd been waiting for and not only had they sent me what I'd ordered but the entire set! I'll consider that a nice gesture on their part!!!! I've tried the first DVD just now and it's a really relaxing exercise which should help with tension. I'm looking forward to seeing the other nine. Anyway, gotta run as it's dinner time. Later Dbers.
Hi Wii! Couldn't find you for awhile, but I gotcha now!
Glad you had a lovely Christmas and how nice that you can take your daughter to visit mommy's new place of work, and there not be any tension. I think you did the work on this, and it's paying out.
Enjoy the rest of the weekend.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Yes, we did have a very nice Christmas, Being Me. Hope you did too! On Xmas Eve STBX cooked a lovely meal for us all and we watched 2012 together. STBX and I wrapped presents together later in the evening and I retired to the basement. Her new furnace is like listening to a plane take off every fifteen minutes, great to sleep with! In the a.m. we all got up and opened presents (D15 was up at 7:00, believe it or not, and STBX sent her back to bed!). Later on we all went down to my parents place and had dinner and opened presents again with the rest of my family. We got home about 11:30 pm. Tomorrow, we are going to a Xmas get together with some old friends who we've known for at least twenty years. It's three couples (us included) who have kids the same age. WE've raised our kids together and used to go to the cottage and on trips together. I still am invited to get togethers although I come only once in a while. Tomorrow, I'm going. It should be fun. Today D12 and I went out boxing day shopping and the deals were pretty much non-existent but I did end up with a DVD player for $39 (and I probably could have got it for that any other time too ) All the best Being Me, glad you found my new digs!
Last night was a late one for Whatis. I got home about 2:00 am after dropping off STBX at her place. The kids stayed over at our friends place. Our three families had a wonderful afternoon and evening together. I haven't seen these folks probably since last Christmas unless my memory is mistaken. We've all known each other for twenty years, raised our kids together and vacationed together often. Sometimes it's a bit weird to be suddenly back where I was a few years ago, living even for a few days the life I lived then. So far, I haven't had any bad effects from it but it's a brand new year upon us!!!! Anyway, STBX is now inviting me and my parents over to her place for dinner and to celebrate on New Years Day. I'm also inviting my best friend to join us. Y'know, I'll almost be glad when the holidays are over because then I can get back to NOT seeing STBX as much again!
