Advice on DB-ing when sep spouse lives at home

[kjensen]

Hi TF,

Christmas was OK. H came over at 7am and left by 10am. He started getting angry with me over stupid things(couldn't remember the logon mmediately for itunes)..Started getting touchy(I put a present that came for H with his bag of xmas "loot" and he thought I was getting ready for him to leave.)

Said he'd had too much spiced rum apple cider the night before with his cousin...seems to be a new (unfortunate) pattern.

Told me that Xmas was hard for him. He hated the light therapy lap I still gave him even though he gessed what it was earlier this month. Didn't bother to take it out of the box. He emailed me today that it hurt him that I still gave him the lamp. I DB'd back and apologized that he felt hurt.

H seems convinced that we are divorcing-no wavering at all. So I'm pretty sad and discouraged about this.

I think I messed up yesterday while texting H( he initiated). He told me he was looking at computers(to buy) and when I asked him, with a smiley face, if he was expecting a windfall from divorcing me..he got terse. Today he emailed me that the fact that I would even think that means I don't know him...

So the anger is back, the sensitiveness, it really stinks.
Sorry for the Hijacking..long answer.

I was hoping there'd be some indication of him missing us, maybe thats what the anger is about.