He's not capable of being any sort of a father right now (I am guessing), so I wouldn't bring up anything to him unless its something you need specifically, like a signature. It is TOUGH, and something we all deal with. My husband is about a teenager now, not someone I would consult on the best way to raise children. The best thing for your kids is to be strong and stand for your marriage, they may not get it day to day, but when they are grown they will realize what you did. If they ask what is up with daddy, it is also not your place to make excuses. You can just answer that daddy is busy dealing with his own things right now. At 8 and 5 they can learn that daddy cannot be relied on at this time (but hopefully that will change in the future). I believe that if he was a good father in the past, he can be a good father in the future, but just that RIGHT NOW he cannot handle it. I to am hoping that the husband I knew pre-MLC will return. I believe he is still in there somewhere. People live up to expectations, that is why having a positive attitude is so important.
Me - 38 Husband - 40 MLC! Together 12 years Married 11 years Still the love of my life Forever only lasted 10 years before his MLC and affair
