I haven't posted much but I do read alot on these boards and soak up information. Many spouses of both WAS and MLC scream divorce but then don't follow through. You can't change anyone's behavior but your own. Someone else stated (Snodderly perhaps?) that you want to become the woman that no one would want to leave. If you can work on you being the best mom to your kids as well as things that make you happy, that will already occupy your time. By not focusing on him, it may give him time alone to think about himself. Even if he does file, I believe there are ways of stalling. I'm not a lawyer, but I have read on other threads where if there has been no counseling efforts, the judge can put a hold on any paperwork for 6-9 months to allow that to happen (probably depends on the state). So don't think that paperwork is the end either. I would recommend going very very dark, he obviously can't handle much of anything right now.
Me - 38 Husband - 40 MLC! Together 12 years Married 11 years Still the love of my life Forever only lasted 10 years before his MLC and affair
