Separated, new baby, but still hopeful

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So if he brought up the D because he thought I was hurting, (which makes excellent sense) then maybe he hasn't brought it up because I have been doing fine. So he has bought himself more time. I guess what I do see is that if he wants a D, nothing will stop him from pursuing one.

I would agree with that. If he wants a D he will get one regardless.

mom's. But I quickly conferred with my grandma who knows about everything, and she said one rebuff like that won't stop him from wanting to return if that is what he wants. She said that if I were to say "Hell no I'm not going! &^%$! etc" then that would be different. But politely explaining I am sorry but I have to get stuff done, then it won't be pushing him toward wanting to D.

Mums (even grand-mums) know best ... listen to her. If he wants to D he will. You won't be pushing him farther away by not going with him.

Dang, last week I wasn't scared of the D. I hate rollercoasters (the real ones) as it is!

I was beginning to think you never went on them newmama and it was only me! Your positivity is always there but the negative times are good too ... makes us question ourselves which is never a bad thing!