Thanks all for the responses. Coach, you're absolutely right. My instincts say that it was another calculated lie. And when I asked her how her boss reacted, she didn't give me much of an answer really. Something like, "she understood."
Gucci, thanks for the support on my sitch. It's so lonely to be the only one that is thinking clearly. And when I reach out to friends and family, it's hard for them to understand what I'm doing, also. I mean, her sister (my wife's best friend) is now telling me that I should divorce her, for the sake of the kids.
Gucci-you mentioned lining up my ducks. What ducks do I need to line up prior to filing? I think I've closed off access to most accounts I can close access to. She will still have access to her 401K at her current job, and I think she took a large deduct from an old 401K (she said she was thinking about it, but the amount balance seems low. I have to check statements, Im thinking she took out 10K or so). Other than that, I might need help with figuring out which ducks to line up.
Nut-I agree about the phone being off. It's such a passive aggressive move. Esp. given how nice she was yesterday. She even gave me a goodbye hug, unsolicited, and returned to the house later to pick up my son's inhaler. I'm going to make that part of the legal stuff.
