I think that any adult living with their parents would feel trapped and suffocated.
I too do not believe in divorce, that is why we are all here, we are trying to save and work on our marriages.
Think about you bringing up divorce to him like this: Are you going to jump off of that cliff? Are you? Well are you? Even though he internally knows that jumping off of a cliff would hurt like heck and destroy everything, if you keep pushing he may just do it to stop the questioning. I think some WAS feel like divorce is going to solve all of their problems, but of course those of us that are rational know that it just opens up another whole can of worms.
You mention that he has been out of the house since August and is still not happy. Of course, because you and your marriage were not the problem! It was his dissatisfaction within himself that caused his problems. He has to realize this himself, and then actually be man enough to work on his problems. It can unfortunately take them a long time to realize this.
Me - 38 Husband - 40 MLC! Together 12 years Married 11 years Still the love of my life Forever only lasted 10 years before his MLC and affair
