The faster you let go the faster they come back. Shouldn't your goal then to be to let go as fast as you can? By putting things into your mind such as it may take 18 months or longer or that it may take months and months and months, isn't good self talk.
Women are attracted to confident men, EMOTIONALLY STRONG men, decisive men and men who are sensitive (to her feelings).... Stop the emotionally weak talk. Act as if you are emotionally strong. I suspect you are.
Trying to hang in there to win them back doesn't work very well. The guys who reconcile will almost always tell you that it wasn't until they let her go and stepped out of the way that they found out that that is when the woman comes back.
Wouldn't your best answer then be to work as fast as possible to let go? It doesn't take detaching to let go. It takes discipline and logic. (those are both things that men are usually good at understanding and doing)
